Identity is built up in this way for those that participate in this base unit, intimate form of society, and society on a wider scale is built up as well. Identity in God, the Creator of all things seen and unseen are introduced in this intimate social structure. Men draw on Him as He is their authority and women draw on their husbands as he is theirs. In this way, children gain identity that is stable as it brings them into relationship with the Lord. Because, it is a social relationship that God wants with us; He is the Creator of Social Reality ~ The Father, Son and Holy Spirit.
Men as Fathers, women as mothers, should understand that their social contentment comes from their willingness to participate in God's social hierarchy.
"If anyone sets his heart on being an overseer ... the husband of but one wife, temperate, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach, not given to drunkenness, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money. He must manage his own family well and see that this children obey him with proper respect." ~ 1 Timothy 3: 2-5
"Wives in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the world, they may be won over without words by the behavior of the wives when they see the purity and reverence of your lives." ~ 1 Peter 3