Women's role as Mothers in God's Socialization!

So many women today ridicule men for being men. Yet, when you think about it, if they are not godly men then one could understand. If that is the case, then how did they become ungodly or rather why were they never encouraged to be godly men. Socialization begins at birth and isn't mother the main socialization instrument?  Yet, so if she had real influence over boys and young men then we should see better men, godly men, right?

In 1 Timothy 2 we read that men are to pray with holy hands lifted up to God, free from anger and controversy. And, that women are not to teach men or have authority over them. Interesting... maybe this is the problem. Women are not to teach men. What about boys? In many cultures, mothers influence over boys ends around the age of 10 or 12. Does that mean that boys at that age are already men? No, but for some cultures it is a stage prior to manhood that has to be taken seriously.

In our current civilization, this is not the practice. Yes, in our western culture boys become men at 18 though 21 would be the wiser. All too often we find women are still teaching them and having authority over them. Yet, in 1 Timothy 2:15, we read that women should not be allowed to teach men. Following this scripture, God's Word, young men should move on to a college for men aspiring to be godly men or go into training provided by godly men.

But, you can say that is nearly impossible given that there aren't many godly men out there these days in higher education. Is that really true? In the paragraph above, one might say then that is true as women have continued to teach and have authority over young men and even older men considering our current social climate. But, it is difficult to say as only statistics could show. We could look at Christian colleges to see if the ratio men to women was lower and assume that this is the case. But, then we could even assume that in secular schools there could be godly Christian men though in plain sight might be hiding their faith so as not to be fired or appear intolerant to women.

You could make the argument that such was the case of boys leaving their mother and entering the company of men as was practiced years ago in early America and Europe and look what it got us... wars! That can be argued well. Yet, we also have to acknowledge that this is a fallen world and thus bad things happen. Given that bad things happen, we can make the better argument that God needs strong godly men as foot soldiers, godly men on the ground to battle for peace, and for His Kingdom come.

If men are to be men/godly men, then they must be trained as godly men by godly men and they will treat women/wives as the body of Christ. This teaching has to come from godly men guided by the Word of God! And though 1 Timothy is largely addressing orderly worship, we must be mindful that our entire life as a Christian is about and should be spent worshiping God, both in congregation and outside of congregation.

Women should know when to let their boys become godly men and thus they will become godly men and godly husbands, men who are called by God by His Word the Bible.




* Mothers can give their sons a wonderful gift too... God's Word the Bible!

Women are Called to be Modest and Humble!

In every place of worship, I want men to pray with holy hands lifted up to God, free from anger and controversy. And, I want women to be modest in their appearance. They should wear decent and appropriate clothing and not draw attention to themselves by the way they fix their hair or by wearing gold or pearls or expensive clothes. For women who claim to be devoted to God should make themselves attractive by the good things they do. Women should learn quietly and submissively. I do not let women teach men or have authority over them. Let them listen quietly. For God made Adam first, and afterward He made Eve. 1 Timothy 2: 8-10.

Be Humble and Live a Godly Life!

Instructions to Women

…A woman must learn in quietness and full submissiveness. I do not permit a woman to teach or exercise authority over a man; she is to remain quiet. For Adam was formed first, and then Eve.…1 Timothy 2:11-13.

How to live a Godly Life in 15 points:1-LoveGod, 2- Acknowledge sin and repent, 3- Read and do what the Bible says, 4- Allow God to Change you, 5- Understand you will be persecuted, 6- Set aside time for prayer, 7- Try to put yourself in other's shoes, 8- Be patient, 9- Work and pray for others, 10- Treat others as you want to be treated, 11- Strive to live a quiet life, 12- Share the Gospel, 13-Fellowship with others, 14- Practice what you preach, and 15- Help others - volunteer!


 The LORD Almighty planned it, to bring down her pride in all her splendor and to humble all who are renowned on the earth ~ Isaiah 23:9.

Do Not Love the World!

I have written to you, fathers, because you know Him who is from the beginning. I have written to you, young men, because you are strong, and the word of God abides in you, and you have overcome the evil one. Do not love the world or anything in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world—the desires of the flesh, the desires of the eyes, and the pride of life—is not from the Father but from the world.…1 John 2:14-16.

What about our jobs, our kids, our lovely houses and great restaurants/vacations and government? What about them? The flesh (pride of life) belongs to this world. Do your job, demonstrate to your children the love for and only hope for eternal life in Jesus Christ and by the way share your lovely home and food... For God is life and everything in it! And, because of that, we put Him First! 

... "'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind ~ Luke 10:27.

Its when we don't that problems arise, conflict ensues...

So...Put your trust in the Lord ~Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding... Proverbs 3:5.

We live to declare the works of the Lord! I will not die but live, and will proclaim what the LORD has done ~ Psalm 118:17.

Is Criticism a Way of Being Pious?

As some feel criticized by pointing flaws in their walk with the Lord, they too can become quick to judge one as being pious. As sisters in Christ, members of His body, existing yet in a fallen world, we are not asked to confront one another in a manner that is threatening, (I'll sue you/I'll get my lawyer) demanding to bring offenses before a court of man but we are asked to confront each other in a quiet and maybe sternly manner. Are we not truly after the salvation of another human being?  Isn't our goal to bring Christian people who are stumbling back to the fold? Yes!

The first step in that direction is for women in Christ to put their own desires aside and their husbands first. He comes under God and thus acts on our behalf for our salvation. The social hierarchy of the Lord is: God, man, woman and all others. This is not to subject anyone to harshness or punishment but to follow rules that a Loving God has set down for our own good until He comes again bringing His Kingdom, the New Jerusalem.

No one is insisting on you in pious self denial as everything is permissible not everything is beneficial (1 COR 10:23). But, if we truly wish for greater peace here and now, a greater and more intimate walk with Christ being salt and light for Him in this fallen world, then we by our own choice will deny the self and serve the Lord. This is what we as Christian women must teach our children and represent in our communities.

If one goes in the opposite direction, if one opts for a free unrestricted, a happy go lucky, let it all hang out... just be enthusiastic about life and not critical about others, then who is salt and light, what is salt and light?

We could run the risk of evil becoming good!

Women who Tend to Live in the Flesh!

Women who tend to live in the flesh are those that do not understand the Kingdom of God. We can see it everywhere! We see it in them as mothers doting on their children by dressing them up and lavishly them with gifts that they don't need or even deserve... getting an A in gym, art or music etc. They brag about them when they graduate from kindergarten and even more when they graduate from high school or college. They put them on pedestals and worship them as idols. Their entire life, they introduce their children to the world of consumption... both the boys and girls. They introduce them to the fallen world!

Women drive the fashion (including underwear) and cosmetic industry, the accessory (jewelry) and handbag industry, the cleaning product industry, the home decor industry and the list goes on. Don't they know that this world is passing away? Yet, they cling to every aspect of it. As they age, they want organic food, spas, facials, other treatments, vitamins etc.

Women tend to have huge needs in this world... the need to be pretty and prettier than others. The need to be adored and to be the one everyone turns their head for/toward. They want to be worshiped by men and certainly by their husbands. If they 'husbands' slip up, they put the hammer down... as in go to court.

Women have a tendency to tease and scheme and throw daggers and then in their hypocrisy bring birthday cake into the coffee clutch at the office... Yes, women do tend to live in the flesh. They dress up for church and do not cover their heads. They even demand to get up on the pulpit these days to show men they are better and or in the least equal and worse that we are over and above men which is going over and above God's hierarchy for this fallen world.

One can hear their argument which is that they deserve to be worshiped after all women give birth... aren't they doing God's work.

For Eve's sin, our salvation lies in the pain of childbirth...

To the woman He said, "I will greatly multiply your pain in childbirth, in pain you will bring forth children... ~ Genesis 3:16.

Why such harsh criticism coming from a woman. I only want to point out that in these times and in times past, we woman want a better world. Yet, it hardly seems we want to actually build it. We forget God's hierarchy which is for our own good.

Ephesians 5 ~ 21-33 ~ Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— for we are members of his body. “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

We must remind ourselves that we are the first encounter a child has with this fallen world.... Yes, women live in the flesh. But given our great role in this fallen world we should be delivering the word of God when we deliver.