Yesterday I listened to Pastor James Ford Jr. talk about Biblical marriage. Before, he even got to the main point of his message I knew it would be good since Pastor Ford has an excellent marriage ministry. His message was better than good, it was great. Because he talked about the marriage hierarchy as a sociologist would as purposeful function. He reminded us that God does not do things randomly or humorously as in 'lets see if this works... ha ha ha'.
Pastor Ford reminded us that Eve was made from Adam's rib for purpose. She was given a function to fulfill, she had purpose and it was to protect Adam emotionally. Adam of course had purpose too and it was to protect Eve by providing her security and love. He was instructed to be united with her so that could become one flesh.
The Lord God asked Eve to do something particular for Him and that is to submit to Adam. Eve's purpose is to submit her emotions to him as he submits to Him. The wife has a purpose a role to fulfill for her husband. She takes her emotions to him, and he takes his to the Lord. Pastor Ford added to that by saying that Adam's emotions must be added to by Eve and curbed by Eve. She takes her emotions to him after taking his into her and thus reflects their becoming one flesh. As a wife, Eve's function is to help her husband emotionally as she is suited to that task. She does not hurl at her husband all her emotions as if to say here deal with it. She absorbs his, submits to his, understands his role and purpose and then shares with her husband her emotions which have already been changed by subjecting herself to him first. In this way, they together are better able to deal with emotional experiences in this world.
You see, man - Adam had to do the same as his function is the same in relation to the Lord. Man - Adam can not and certainly should not hurl his problems on the Lord as if to say here deal with it. Man must first contemplate his function in relation to the Lord's function. Only then could Adam 'man' approach the Lord with his problems which now already changed by his submission to the Lord, his seeking the Lord first in relationship not by making demands or blaming or begging but by seeking to know Him first by being with Him before ...just going off on the Lord.
Wives, seek to understand your husband first in your relationship ~ This is your function. Husbands seek to understand the Lord first in your relationship ~ This is your function!
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