3:16 The desire of the woman/women in God's design.
Satan struck at the core of God's design. In Genesis 3:16 we read that Eve was tempted by the serpent (Satan) and she disobeyed God's command and brought her husband into disobedience as well. Why? Is it because woman was not present when God warned Adam not to eat of the tree after all she was created second. Yet, Eve knew of this warning which we could assume she was told by Adam or by God or was known simply because she was a creation of God's. Something though in Eve caused her to spout off to the serpernt while in the presence of Adam; essentially, an act of disobedience in the sense that it revealed in her a desire to be first in relationship with God.
Therefore, one might interpret this 'spouting off' to the serpent) as revealing woman's sense of being second to Adam in creation; thus, becoming her greatest stumbling block and the root of most dysfunctional behavior women have in relationships with men today. In her desire to be first with God, she was now fixed to be second, failing to realize she was actually as much first as was Adam... a very important creation in God's design. She doubted her creation and relation with God. Satan chose Eve because of thebdoubt in her which we could assume he sensed about her.
Now fallen, Eve's earthly desire would now be for her husband which would mean that her fallen desire was now to be that of desiring control over her husband. Taken in this way, the statement is not about God commanding women to be under their husbands due to this desire but then again it seems so. But, what if God is actually reminding her of her sin and warning her against this sin which she now she must overcome through prescribed kingdom dynamics in order to regain her relationship with God.
We as Christians accept that when Adam and Eve sinned, that became our sin. It is in this fallen world, that we can and do ask, how is what they did relevant for us today. If you ask that then you do not understand what actually happened in Genesis 3:16 and nor do you understand then why God sent His Son to atone for that sin 'our' sin for the sake of our salvation.
Yet as I said, this is a fallen state of being all too often both men and women claim that what Adam and Eve did was her act and not mine. They ask - How is what she did relevant for women today? In light of Genesis 3:16, all we have to do is look around at the world today and see that Eve's sin - her doubt carries on and or is passed on. Women in their doubt still desire to be first; and because of that, they think it can be accomplished by controlling men. As a result, the man might (either inadvertently or intentionally) rule her 'women' emotionally. In that case, her value, significance, and security would then hinge on the man's response to her. Again she fails to trust God who wanted her deepest longing to hinge on Him.
In this fallen world, women's hope and salvation hinges on God's prescribed kingdom dynamics or God's social hierarchy; which is: God, man and woman. It is our hope that God did this so that Eve's (Adam's too) sin could run its course and she would finally realize that her creation was God's design and that knowledge alone is her greatest worth erasing all doubt in her.
The fallen world is God prescribed to work as a program allowing original sin to run its course. This program is governed by God design - a social process so to speak outlined in Ephesians and in other scripture all of which define God's authority in male/female relationships 'marriage'. You see within this hierarchy there exists security and salvation which are to reassure the woman of her worth and man of his. Accepting this hierarchy will not and should not lead to independence or rebellion by either the man or woman. Rather, it should and does open the way for her and him to the fullest joy of her voluntary submission to God's hierarchy applied in marriage. There, in that process, they will rediscover their (her) true relationship God intended for them (her) from the beginning.