In Romans 6, we read that we are dead to sin and alive in Christ. Remember that Christ delivered us from the sin of death. "For if we died with Christ, we believe that we will also live with him. For we know that since Christ was raised from the dead, he cannot die again; death no longer has mastery over him. The death he died, he died to sin once and for all; but the life he lives, he lives to God. In the same way, count yourselves dead to sin but alive to God in Christ Jesus." Romans 6: 8-11
Yet, even with that knowledge we feel that death is the end of us, the end of relationships. The death of a loved one is an experience that no one is ever prepared for. Especially, a parent, a spouse, a sibling, a child... no matter what age. There is a physical disconnection that is worse than the emotional; it feels like a part of you has been cut off and you have the feeling that that person will never be seen or touched again. It is not easy to get over that kind of physical pain; and yet time does heal the pain but never fills the void of that loss. If you are ever faced with that or faced with consoling someone as they go through this kind of experience, you will likely be at a loss for words to express you pain and at a loss to console some one's pain. Many Christians first reaction is "He/she is in a better place". While, that is true, it is not the words loved ones remaining here want to hear in light of 'fresh loss' event. What we as Christians must try to understand is that we are God's children (everyone of us) and the children we have on this earth belong to Him too. What we must rest in and take comfort in is that everything that happens is always for His glory, though we may not like the way in which He allows for that to happen and what He means by good. Does that mean the God is 'mean', that he can do with our lives as he wishes to get glory for himself. No. Firstly, we always need to remind ourselves that we live in a fallen world. Bad things happen in a fallen world and since we are in it, we will experience bad things... "If you belonged to the world, it would love you as its own. As it is, you do not belong to the world, but I have chosen you out of the world." John 15:19. We are of something else, something greater. And, thus whenever anyone leaves us, leaves this fallen world, if they have accepted Jesus Christ as their Savior, they will be with Him and we will all eventually be together in the New Jerusalem. A loving and merciful God is not mean, but He is just. In this fallen world, we are in it and we were and are subjected to the bad things in it. Being in it, we make bad decisions, we sin and those sins can bring us misery and cause us to make bad choices, to make mistakes. Yet in our misery and out of our mistakes, out of our being led astray by Satan, God can and does make things right in His time and always for His glory. In this, we should rejoice because it means that though we are sinners and bad things happen, God can and does make it all things for good, by doing so, His glory is greater and when His glory is greater, His creations are made gloriously greater. The best Biblical example is the story of Lazarus. Jesus could have come while he was sick or even near death but that would not have been as glorious.