We make choices and that includes behavioral choices. Sometimes, we do act without thinking. It is usually a reaction to a situation or a person. If you have been the person who acts out or the person being the target of someone's action; rethink. The person who acts out is doing that... reacting. If you have been the recipient of that, then also rethink - repent.
We do expect certain behavior from people who we have as friends and family. If they suddenly act other than the way 'you' expect and the action seems to be against you, then you should reconsider your behavior and action as it might have led to you perceiving that someone is against you and reacting in a way you never expected toward you and you especially.
Think about how you have treated that person. Do you honestly love them and show your love? Or, have you been buying their favor with gifts and money or promises that you never actually fulfill. Maybe you have pushed them to a point that they cannot understand you and your true feelings for them. Maybe you have stepped out of the bounds of God's hierarchy of social relationships.
How did you react? Did you fly off the handle about their reaction or behavior toward you? Did you make it a point to verbally recall all you have done for them or do/did.
"After all I have done for you... I just spent a ton of money on you and this is what I get".
Did you say such things in retaliation? It isn't the Christian response. Ask Why? If you expect certain things from people, then say so from the beginning of your relationship. If you don't like someone, ask yourself why? Don't pretend and hope that they will change if you spend money on them. Or that you can cover your dislike by showering gifts and cash. This is not Christian love for another person.
People will often react in ways we don't expect. this is a fallen world. Given that, no one is without sin and bad behavior. If the situation is unsolved, ask why and what you did to be the recipient of their bad behavior. It may be you were the cause. Handle the situation with love by asking God for help and words. Do not pray that such a person be removed from your life, or from the earth. I have heard people say that they prayed away someone. That is not Christian.
Pray for yourself and ask God to help you understand what you did to bring out such behavior in someone. Even if you think they over reacted, they might not think they did. Pray for that person. Ask God to intervene in their life so that they can try to understand you and your position and in that way understand themselves and their own reaction... this will lead to kind resolution.
Praise to the Lord Jesus Christ!
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